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In order to be victorious over sexual assault, you need to be highly dedicated to your healing, recovery, and victory.

This process of learning, growing, and developing is like going up a large circular library staircase.

Victory is at the top of the staircase but you can’t get to the next step without completing the work to learn the lesson and grow enough to reach it.

Dedicate yourself to loving yourself through patience, kindness, and honesty so you can truly process and adjust your thoughts, words, and actions to gain victory over any obstacle or oppression that may come your way. 

I would like to help you learn to set an emotional development goal.

These goals are unlike business goals, where you need to implement a SMART plan of action.

Emotional development goals are where your mind, body, and spirit are aligned to be in control over one emotion at a time.

For instance, you may want to improve your attitude in the morning to perform better at your job.

Instead of saying in two weeks, I will be better at my job,

you will identify all the ways you display disagreeable behavior in the morning,

identify your morning routine,

acknowledge the thoughts and feelings you experience and express in the morning,

and then associate each thought with each feeling to each expression and action of the morning routine,

Then, you will discover the reason why you are disagreeable in the morning.

After discovering the why, you will identify what thoughts, words, and actions you need to change this dynamic.

Then, you need to pick one thought at a time to reprogram.

You will need to practice meditations and affirmations, journaling, and observing yourself objectively throughout your morning

as you put this reprogrammed thought into your daily morning routine and prior night routine.

As you improve and grow in these new thoughts, you will see progress based upon your dedication to completely adapting to this new way of thinking, speaking, and doing.

Since it takes at least a month to break and rebuild a habit, it is illogical to say I’ll be totally healed in 2 weeks.

Declaring, "I’m dedicated to improving my attitude so that I can be more agreeable in the morning"

is a more realistic way to define emotional developmental goals and show patience towards yourself. 

You can easily improve your mood based on your thoughts as soon as you know they need improving!

When you get used to enjoying how you feel in the morning and the results of your positive energy, you will make a habit of the new and improved routine.

This week, your challenge is to identify what you are dedicated to improving and create affirmations of gratitude for improvement to use along your healing journey.

Take the time to think of all the specific thoughts and feelings that create depression or negative affect as a result of the trauma you survived. Using your feelings wheel, Feelings Chart and VIsual Gratitude and Meditation Journal.

Write a list of all the negative feelings (if you can’t think of the feeling, use your feelings wheel).

Use the feelings worksheet to write what you feel and why you feel that way,

what you want to feel,

and what you can do when you feel the way you desire.

Take the final sentence: I am happy and grateful to feel___________ so I can finally __________ and write them in your Visual Gratitude & Meditation Journal. 

Find pictures that represent this happiness and upload them.

Review the photos in your journal daily and say this affirmation ten minutes to yourself 3 times every day.

This exercise will help you send out a positive vibration to open your atmosphere for happiness.

This will also help you realize how much time you spend improving or ignoring your path to happiness. 

Dedicate your effort to developing a positive thought pattern and habit of deciding that you walk in perfect mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, and financial well-being.

Complete the course work with this mindset, and you will build an optimal belief system that will lead you to walk in perfect healing to move forward in your life.

Some people will find your withdrawal from meaningless activities like hanging out, gossiping, watching television, and idolizing offensive or an act of aggression against their happiness.

This will be a great opportunity for you to work on expressing yourself and setting boundaries in a positive, loving manner that will allow you to encourage your friends and loved ones to take some time to heal as well.

Let them know that you desire to heal and walk in victory over problems in your life that they cannot help you with.

However, working on yourself will make you a better friend, communicator, and more successful in life!

Encourage them to understand how you want to improve!

Speak confidently in expressing your dreams and aspirations and how to change a few things in your life to make these things happen.

Express your desire for them to grow and heal, as well, and let them know how to check out some media or enroll in the course themselves.

Be excited about the self-improvement work you are embarking on, and express that if your friends want to heal, there is an abundance of healing and victory for anyone interested!

However, if you find your friends and loved ones not supporting you, see that they have drawn a line in the sand and be dedicated to your healing enough to stay on your side!

Healing on your own is possible because I had to.

Even when I interacted with others along this journey, the most profound lessons I’ve learned were when meditating and reflecting on our conversations alone. 

On your path to victory, you will learn to become confident in what you want and don’t want.

You will also learn the words to communicate them.

Some survivors of sexual trauma have a real problem with saying the word no!

I know this because I, too, had a problem with the word no!

Don’t be afraid to say no; I don’t want to; it’s not healthy for my healing.

If someone doesn’t respect your right to say no, don’t be afraid to sanitize toxic people from your environment.

Your body, mind, attention, and time are yours alone, and it is your right to deny access to whoever, whenever you want!

Always remember, when you lose something, you gain something.

You can release the toxicity in your life and gain peace.

You can release the pain and gain joy; you can release the memory of the trauma and gain the reflections of a happy and wonderful life.

You are the only person in control of letting go of the pain and depression you feel.

You must be dedicated to doing the work every day until you’ve found yourself so removed from the problem

that you’re living an optimally healthy, joyful, peaceful, loving, prosperous, abundant life.

Remember, the healing journey is not a sprint but a marathon.

Dedicate yourself each day to the pursuit of self-love and growth.

Embrace the process with patience and kindness, and let every small victory remind you that you are moving closer to a life of optimal health, joy, and peace.

You have the power within you to transform your life.