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As young children, we are taught that pain usually occurs when we do not take precautions when having fun and as a consequence of breaking the rules.

However, the growing pains that we experienced early on have taught us how to handle pain and altered our points of attraction.

Consider the remarkable resilience in a child’s response to pain when learning to walk.

Despite the frequent falls and bumps, they persist because they desire to play and imitate others. The child is not only learning and exhibiting resilience but even more profoundly learning a powerful lesson in the influence of their actions on others.

When children fall while learning to walk, they usually won’t cry until they get the attention of someone who takes pity on them. Some children are over-catered when they experience the pains of falling and getting back up, and they become addicted to it. It is here when a child begins to be shaped by spoiled laziness or a sense of responsibility and endurance.

When the child learns to use their pain to manipulate their parents for attention, they are learning to attract negative energy to them.

These experiences of growing pains repeat in life; if you don’t cause a scene or try to cover up problems, you may be able to get over a stumbling block without making the situation worse. Your mental processing and perspective play a crucial role in this.

Ignoring the temporary growing and learning pains or frustrations can help you overcome the small, petty distractions and move on in life.

There are some less-taught truths about pain you need to know to recover, find healing, and walk in happiness.

Pain is a guide.

In life, sensations of pain are your brain telling you that something in that area is not right and should be changed for improvement.

Sometimes, the pain is from a real issue that won’t go away so easily,

but you can choose how you desire to direct your attention toward it or ignore it.

I encourage those experiencing frequent pains to consult with a doctor.

Paying attention to small indications will help prevent future illnesses.

But the main thing to remember is not to wallow in the fear, misery, and sorrow that sulking in pain can bring.

Your response to the pain signal is purely based on your mental processing and perception. If you see pain as something to acknowledge, resolve, and heal, that’s great—you won’t stay in pain for long. However, if you feel pain should be ignored or drugged to alter your mentality because you believe it is your brain that is wrong, then you will be in pain for a long time to come.

Another less-taught lesson about pain is that there is equal joy in life if you learn the lesson and apply it to move forward in your life. Every pain is an opportunity for growth and learning.

If you truly want to live free from the pain and problems of the world,

then you must open your mind to the possibility that each and every situation you have experienced has a good side to it,

and you will find it.

How can you find the positive from being assaulted?

Where’s the good in it?

Is there any good in feeling bad,

low,

powerless,

and disgusting?

I remember asking Creator these very same questions many years ago,

when I first committed to my healing and recovery.

I felt my chest stiffen, my breaths shortened, the fire inside my entire torso was lit, and I was ready to fight.

The answer from Creator came slowly through learning how to apply the Universal Laws and the Keys to Victory to my thoughts and perspective on my pain and situations. By 'Creator ', I refer to the divine force or higher power that guides and supports me in my healing journey. This spiritual aspect of the healing process is important to me, but I understand that each individual's beliefs and experiences may be different.

I explain all about this process in The Well-Manicured Life.

I knew what I didn’t want and had the tools to attract something different.

It took me a lot of time to reprogram those thoughts,

which kept attracting unfavorable responses and situations with people and environments.

However, my desire to learn gave me hope to turn my pain into the guide of life.

You see, I know what state of mind and precautions I didn’t take when I was hurt,

so I learned to correct and sometimes overcorrect,

then to balance my perspective and expectations of the world based on what I believe.

The power to heal and overcome pain is in your ability to believe that the best way to live, pay a debt to society,

love and be loved, and experience heaven on Earth is by thinking, believing, and doing your best so you can be the best version of yourself.

Your response to the pain signals is based purely on your knowledge.

Some people feel like suffering through pain is their duty to God, to get into heaven or pay a debt to society.

Some people stay in abusive situations because they feel it’s a form of love and attention.

They believe in receiving and expressing love through aggression.

You know, the toxic types that will make a baby after destroying their surroundings in a fit of passionate rage.

This really sucks because they believe that love is pain,

and this misbelief will cause their environments to be full of people and situations that express love through violence.

I have something to say to all those people who believe these things.

Your beliefs are your prison, and every thought you think adds another day to your hell on Earth.

No one truly benefits from the pain of others because it creates a puddle of pain for themselves in the future.

Even if you think the person got rewarded for causing another pain,

the natural mind of man can only facilitate so much negativity on their conscience before they are rendered mentally ill.

The fall of many supposed great men came at the hands of the descendants of the people they’ve wronged.

Another secret of pain management is knowing you have the power to eliminate it.

The Universe is a sweet place where we get what we believe.

Suppose we can’t get what we believe in one area.

In that case, we can turn away from what we focus on and seek somewhere else,

or we can fix our beliefs, responses, and actions to get what we desire from our environment.

If you’re unhappy and in pain,

it is up to you to find the source of the problem

and fix it by changing your perspective, belief, approach, reactions, and responses to improve your state of being.

Make the conscious decision to eliminate painful thoughts from your past and replace them with loving, hopeful thoughts about your future.

The last secret of pain management we will discuss today is understanding when pain says it is time to go. This knowledge gives you the power to take control of your life and your well-being, empowering you to make the right decisions for your happiness and peace.

Leaving when pain is signaling you to walk away is very hard for some people. Especially people who have abandonment issues because wanting someone near and dear to you is what can keep you connected to the problem.

This has been challenging because I was taught that my love and dedication to family should be everlasting, enduring, eternal, and, most importantly, unconditional.

However, I believed such concepts towards some people who have misused, abused and disrespected me.

Having them play an active role in my mind and thoughts cultivated resentment, isolation, and pain inside me, and this decreased my vibration.

These feelings I dwelt on attracted negative thoughts,

which became aggressive and negative towards my self-esteem and happiness,

I noticed my self-discipline began to waiver.

I began acting in my lower, negative spectrum and self-sabotaging.

I have learned the importance of walking away.

The power of ignoring and being absent from those who didn’t have the same love

and dedication towards me helped me improve the quality of my life.

Just like me, you need to analyze each relationship in your life.

Suppose you’re unhappy and in pain, especially when you know that disrespect has been malicious, intentional, and arranged to do you harm. In that case, it is your job to identify the source of the pain and disconnect from the source and pain in your mind and body. Creator will help you grow in life to process lessons so that you can finally find a new perspective to let that situation bring you joy.

Remember, it is up to you to eliminate the pain in your life by identifying the source of the problem and fixing it by changing your perspective, belief, approach, reactions, and responses to improve your state of being.

Make the conscious decision to eliminate painful thoughts from your past and replace them with loving, hopeful thoughts about your future.